When you want to change yourself your friends and family are gonna hold you back… If you think “what will my friends think, what will people at work think,” your gonna lose…
So on this road to self improvement, you’re on your own path. They’re not gonna like it when you change they’re gonna tell you “Thats not you” its just not the you they’re used to seeing that made them feel good about themselves…
When I lost weight, I lost alot of my friends, my friends wanted me to stay fat, so they could feel comfortable about their own weight.”
In my own experience I’ve seen that at many times the people who are closest to you are the first to disapprove when you begin to change yourself. When people place you in a certain category and begin to see you acting differently they will not like it. It usually forces them to look at their own selves and what they have been doing wrong in their own lives, and the changes they themselves used to make.
“Be mindful of who you let in. You earn within $2- 3000 of your closest friends.”- Les Brown.
At this point I’m at a crossroads with my friendships. a mentor once said: “All relationships are based on Honesty Trust and Respect. If any of those are broken, then the relationship will not last. Theres a realization I’ve had that many friendships have simply been negative and holding me back from improving.
The truth is, the easiest thing to change is an opinion. At first your friends may disapprove of the change you’re making, but they will then grow to accept it. And if they don’t, then you should probably get new friends.
Bob Gass once said
|Here are five types of (friends) you’ll encounter:
a) refreshers; who strengthen your faith and energise you
b) refiners; who sharpen you and clarify your vision
c) reflectors; who mirror your energy, neither adding to nor subtracting from it
d) reducers; who try to diminish your goals and efforts to their comfort level
e) rejecters; who don’t understand you or what God’s called you to do.
With this know and choose your friends wisely, and stay focused on improving. Their praise is less likely to get your head, and the negative impact of their criticisms will be minimized.